Have you ever asked yourself, how it would be to live in a world where no one says: „Get over it!“?
Like it would be the most important and the most guiding words someone could contribute to your situation. As it would change anything. I’ve often asked myself that, even though I haven’t heard it often. At least not directly into my face.
The reason I thought about that is, I caught myself getting ready to say it. Maybe I did a few times. I allow myself to say, this did not happen to hurt people, no, but to protect myself. To protect me from being overwhelmed by the problems of others, people who’re close to me. People who mean the world to me. Such people I’d build bridges for, if there wasn’t a way they could get to me any longer, people I love with all of my heart.
In these moments I wish I would have said:
„I don’t ask you to get over it like it was the easiest step you could make. What I want for you is that you find a way. The right way for yourself. I want to help you because I love you. The ballast from your problems I carry because I love you. Limits I set because I cannot give more, are not limits of my love for you but they are my protection. To allow you to pass this limit, means for me, I fall. My own life I’ve to put behind yours if you expect it to be more important. I cannot love you more than I love myself. I cannot give more than I have and I hope you understand.
….and I pray that you believe me, while I know it’s not easy.
I know, something’s got a hold on you.
I know, most likely your problem doesn’t mean the end of the world, but, who am I to judge here?
I know, you don’t have a solution, you are looking for a small glimmer of hope.
I know, you hoped, I could present you with the answer you are looking for right now, ready to go.
If I’d have it, it would be yours. It’s the path to find it that makes me struggle.
The disappointment in your gaze because you were hoping I could do more. “
That’s what I’m going to say. Today and in the future.
Let’s ban “Get over it!”